Listen
Listening without judgment can help people to feel safe, comfortable, and supported.
Believe
Many people who experience sexual violence worry they will not be believed, and not being believed can have very damaging impacts on healing. When supporting adults, or people of any age, it is important to demonstrate that you believe the person through both your words and actions. The following statements often have a positive impact:
Explore options
Rather than telling the person what you think they should do following an experience of sexual violence, it is better to explore the options that are available to them. Providing options (rather than advice) when supporting adults is important as it allows the individual to decide what happens next on their healing journey. Some options include:
Practice self care
Hearing or supporting a disclosure can be very upsetting, and for some it can be a trigger or reminder of their own experiences of harm. It is very important to take care of yourself when you are supporting someone who has experienced sexual violence.
If you would like to talk to someone about how to respond to a disclosure, or to receive support in your role as a supporter, call the SACE Support and Information Line.
For more options from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m., chat at sace.ca, or access text, toll-free, or interpreter assisted language support through Alberta’s One Line for Sexual Violence at 1.866.403.8000.